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Should Children Attend Funerals?

Deciding whether your child should attend a funeral is ultimately up to you. If you decide to have your child attend a funeral, make sure to prepare them. Involving family members of all ages in funeral planning gives them a chance to grieve as well as say goodbye to their loved one which is often a beloved grandparent.

If you decide to have your child attend a funeral, here are some ways to prepare your child:

  • Tell your child what they can expect. It is important to explain to them what a Jewish funeral is all about. This can include information on why we hold funerals, how long they are, who attends and what events take place at them.
  • Assign a trusted loved one. Ask a trusted family friend or family member to be the child’s buddy for the funeral. This can help the child feel secure and enable them to ask questions.
  • Involve your child in the service. They could write a poem to be read or draw a picture to be placed in the casket. If the child is old enough, they may want to say a few words at the service.
  • Prepare them for what they could see. You could show them photos online of the funeral home and describe what casket looks like.
  • Help them understand it’s an emotional event. They may see both children and grownups crying and may feel like crying themselves, and this is perfectly okay.  Let them know it’s a good thing to express emotions, even sad ones, and sometimes being sad and talking about it can help you feel better.
  • It’s okay if they choose not to attend. Some children can feel strongly about not attending a funeral. Don’t force them, but do ask them if there is anything they would like to do on their own to say goodbye to the deceased.

Enabling a child to say goodbye to a loved one who has died, is a wonderful way to help them grieve and move on.

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